Love Maps

Strong, healthy relationships are built on friendship. So how do you strengthen your friendship? Love maps are a concept introduced by Dr. John Gottman, a renowned psychologist and researcher on relationships. Love maps are the mental blueprint we have of our partner's world, including their likes, dislikes, fears, dreams, and daily life. Building and maintaining love maps is crucial for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Friendship serves as the foundation of a healthy relationship because it creates a sense of emotional safety and trust. When couples have a strong friendship, they are better equipped to navigate conflict and are more likely to feel connected and satisfied with their relationship. Couples who prioritize their friendship have a higher chance of staying happily married in the long term.

To build strong love maps, begin by asking open-ended questions that encourage discussion and sharing. Examples of these questions include "What are your top three goals in life?", "What was your most embarrassing moment?", "What is your favorite memory from our relationship?", and "What are your biggest fears?" By regularly asking these types of questions, actively listening to the answers and REMEMBERING the answers, you can deepen your understanding and appreciation for each other.

Love maps and friendship are essential components of a healthy and successful relationship. By actively building and maintaining love maps and prioritizing friendship, you will strengthen your connection and increase long-term satisfaction and happiness.